POWER - Celebrating the Wins
Enjoying the Journey Versus the Destination
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About this Post…
In this post I share very openly how I’ve found it hard to celebrate my achievements, the reasons why that is, and how I now celebrate myself in an authentic and genuine way. This post will inspire anyone on a journey to self love and living more authentically.
This is the final post in the power series to remind myself, and you, to celebrate the wins.
I’ve also included this as a free post to all subscribers, so everyone gets the benefits of this incredibly important message.
The mind always wants more….
Something I’ve come to discover on my self love journey, is that it never ends, and my mind always wants more.
And seeing as we are talking about power this month, which effectively means making changes for the better in your own life, be it in your work, within relationships, with your own relationship to yourself, or whatever else you want to be more you in, this is the perfect subject to end the month with, and to keep reminding ourselves of throughout this space.
The curse of being highly driven….
Remembering to celebrate the wins is something I forget to do. I’m highly driven by the next idea, the next event, the next experience to create, and this is something that 100% needs to be in here, this month, and as we move through the year.
Personally, I’ve had quite a bit of resistance to it, and I’m definitely guilty of living in the future, without taking stock and celebrating the win’s, especially when it comes to my events.
I remember last year after my final self love rave of 2024, whilst we were tidying up the room, I started brainstorming with Hannah and Kerry about 2025 events. My mind instantly moved to the next thing, within minutes of ending the last event, without actually celebrating what we had achieved.
It’s a fundamental part of self love…
But the thing is, celebrating ourselves throughout our journey to becoming more disco ball, is a critical part of learning to love and accept ourselves more.
It’s also a huge act of rebellion against our patriarchal system where women are constantly fed the bullshit lies that they are never enough, and it’s a massive signal to the universe that we want more of what we are creating, and so it’s important for all women, including me, to really honour our wins.
And so today I am going to share with you why I think it’s so hard for me, and other women, to actually celebrate ourselves, and the ways that work for me.
I really hope this post inspires you to understand yourself a little more, to realise how far you’ve come, and to help you to actively practice celebrating yourself more on your journey to becoming more disco ball.
Why it’s so challenging?
So for me personally, and I do think that you will relate to some of these, there are three reasons why I believe it’s so hard for me to naturally celebrate myself:
It’s a natural human tendency to move onto the next thing
High expectation of myself, and low self-worth
Fear of my own power
Let’s break these down…
Natural Human Tendency
So apparently this is a thing. It’s natural for humans to have a goal, to focus on it, and make it happen, and to believe that when they achieve it, their life will be sorted. However, when they do get there, it doesn’t really satisfy them, and they’re ready to go again with the next goal.
However, as you can imagine, this means we will never be happy, and we’ll never realise how far we have actually come!
If I think back to the early days of my self love journey, when I wanted to start putting boundaries in place, and the thought of saying “no” filled me with absolute terror.
Back then, if you’d told me that one day I’ll be saying exactly how I feel, without flinching, to some of the most triggering people in my life, I would’ve thought I was the complete dogs bollocks. But when it actually started happening, yes I felt empowered, but it wasn’t long until I was working on the next part of myself love journey, and I didn’t really celebrate it fully for what it was.
High expectation and low self-worth
Feeling unworthy is always at the crux of most behaviours within me. The low level trance of unworthiness that a lot of us are living - sometimes from childhood trauma, and always from patriarchal conditioning. This is the belief that cleverly convinces us that no matter what we do, we will never quite enough.
This is something that shows up for the over and over, in so many of my reactions and behaviours, and it’s 100% showing up here.
Fear of my own power
And finally, I am 100% sabotaging myself here, because I’m fearful of my power.
If I were to actually look at the growth, and realise just how capable I am, it would be the proof of what I could actually achieve in this lifetime. And as mentioned in the previous posts, that freaks the fuck out of me, and so resisting to celebrate myself, is a clever little trick my mind plays, in order to keep me safe.
How I practice Celebrating Myself
And so now I want to share with you how I actively practice celebrating myself. As with all of these practices, they are very personal, and for me personally they have to be something that feels doable, and enjoyable.
There are so many practices out there that you can use to celebrate yourself, some of which I’ll be sharing in my new self love course, however for the purpose of this post, here’s how I do it.
And seeing as this month has been about about stepping into my power with my business, I’m going to share with you the 3 ways I do it in relation to that, although all of these are can be used to celebrate to any part of your life where you are growing:
Time to reflect
Celebrating with my team
Doing something joyful
Time to Reflect…
For me personally, this means blocks of time away from my business. It’s why I take regular breaks of socials, and now off substack. It’s the time where I not only reflect on the positives, but also the lessons learned. And it’s where I have space to drop in to what is really important for the next quarter, versus just jumping into the next thing.
Celebrating with my Team
I am always celebrating the women who are part of this mission. I share with them everything we have achieved as a team, and the impact we have had. This really helps me with taking stock, and really celebrating how far we have all come, including myself.
Doing something Joyful
As a team, we are always doing joyful things. We’ve just been to make handbags for our Christmas do, and Hannah and I did some amazing fun things in 2024.
Tapping in to joy is also a huge act of rebellion against our patriarchal society, and it’s energetic frequency is very high, and so it’s a cue to the universe to deliver more of what you are celebrating!
These 3 actions…
These three actions are powerful way to celebrate yourself, and as mentioned, can be used in any area of your life.
I’ve definitely nailed them recently within my business, but less so on a personal level, which is something I really want to integrate more in to my life in 2025.
I’ll be taking time to reflect and notice the small wins, and I’ll be celebrating myself with small joyful experiences. In fact I’m gonna do a little celebratory dance now for consistently writing every morning for the past few weeks - something that is a huge part of me becoming more Disco Ball.
I really hope this has helped you to see how important celebrating the journey versus focusing on the destination is.
Please do share an area that you are working on in your life, where you could 100% celebrate yourself more in the comments below.
Or if you just feel like you want to write something, do! When I spoke to a load of you before Christmas, every single one of you said that you would like to comment, but you don’t because you’re too worried about what others will say, or that it won’t be relevant.
But I wanna challenge you to be brave and break that pattern. I personally know a lot of you, and you are beautiful and heartfelt women, this is a space for you to share that energy with each other, and I really encourage you to do so.
Sending so much love, and remember, be more disco ball.
UPCOMING EVENTS
Sat 15th March - House of Happiness - Manchester - This legendary London based Sober Rave are coming up North, and I’ll be DJing for them! If you fancy dancing to banging tunes, in a sweaty underground club, surrounded by the most warm and friendly people, this is it! Tickets currently £17, use discount code DJFLOURISH10 for further discounts
Sat 22nd March - Saltburn-by-the-Sea - Self Love Rave Tour. This is the first Rave in the Self Love Rave Tour. We’re bringing the ultimate women-only dance experience to the North East. This isn’t your average rave, this experience will leave an imprint on your heart, a pure sense of freedom, and the courage to step out into the world unapologetically as you! Tickets are £35 plus booking fee.
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