Thanks for making compassion accessible to more of us. I love how you simplify it and make it possible in our everyday lives. Also love the idea of becoming more disco ball.
Absolutely. It’s a crippling part of ADHD and hits me like a crash of waves almost instantly after any kind of perceived rejection. Alex Partridge has some great insights into it x
I see that self-compassion,can be challenging as there is a lot of comparisons going on. That when judgment comes into it, which is rooted early on in childhood. I could also hear your sergeant major, when you sampled the tune of the month. You can definitely sing high notes, your voice naturally does it when you speak. I would describe it as a childlike wonder, which is in the rhythm of my voice too (I’m probably more likely to break a window, hitting high notes!)
Comparison is more likely to happen seeing a friend’s post on social media, when they have been to an event, which can appear that they might have it all and feelings of inadequacy might show up (e.g. My friend Dave having a high level role). It can sometimes lead to FOMO (but are we really missing out?)
However, I have noticed in conversation that someone, who is successful still has struggles and anxiety too. (My friend Dave shared with me the impact of a shake up in, his workplace. Last week, we both needed some live comedy for a hint of joy).
So, really doesn’t matter what your background is, end of the day, we are all human beings, not human doings. Self-compassion is what being human is all about. So self-compassion is like receiving a big, warm hug, from a good friend. We can also be that friend to ourselves and you can even give yourself a hug too! It can make a big difference moving from comparison to compassion, for ourselves.
Thanks for making compassion accessible to more of us. I love how you simplify it and make it possible in our everyday lives. Also love the idea of becoming more disco ball.
Ah yay, glad you found it helpful 💗
I feel that my undiagnosed Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria plays a big part of the voice of my self compassion.
Hey Katie - I’ve been learning about RDS, I’m really interested in knowing more as I relate to a lot of the symptoms!
Absolutely. It’s a crippling part of ADHD and hits me like a crash of waves almost instantly after any kind of perceived rejection. Alex Partridge has some great insights into it x
I’ll take a look x
I see that self-compassion,can be challenging as there is a lot of comparisons going on. That when judgment comes into it, which is rooted early on in childhood. I could also hear your sergeant major, when you sampled the tune of the month. You can definitely sing high notes, your voice naturally does it when you speak. I would describe it as a childlike wonder, which is in the rhythm of my voice too (I’m probably more likely to break a window, hitting high notes!)
Comparison is more likely to happen seeing a friend’s post on social media, when they have been to an event, which can appear that they might have it all and feelings of inadequacy might show up (e.g. My friend Dave having a high level role). It can sometimes lead to FOMO (but are we really missing out?)
However, I have noticed in conversation that someone, who is successful still has struggles and anxiety too. (My friend Dave shared with me the impact of a shake up in, his workplace. Last week, we both needed some live comedy for a hint of joy).
So, really doesn’t matter what your background is, end of the day, we are all human beings, not human doings. Self-compassion is what being human is all about. So self-compassion is like receiving a big, warm hug, from a good friend. We can also be that friend to ourselves and you can even give yourself a hug too! It can make a big difference moving from comparison to compassion, for ourselves.
Childlike wonder - love that! And I relate to FOMO too -
Especially recently when I’ve had to be so quiet. Big hugs x